Divorce is a time filled with difficult moments and important decisions that you must make under emotional duress. In addition, if you are a parent, you have your children's well-being to consider, and you must put their best interests at the forefront of your divorce proceedings.
Child custody is notoriously fraught with conflict and trauma, especially for the children. However, it does not necessarily have to be a dramatic and conflictual battle. Here are a few tips about things to avoid when dealing with child custody, so you can make the process easier and less disturbing for your children:
1. Using your children as pawns
Your children are not at fault for your divorce, so you should not involve them in the thorny emotional conflicts that divorce can entail. When you do things such as badmouth your ex in front of your children or deny your ex access to visitation with your children, you are placing an unnecessary and inappropriate psychological burden on your children.
2. Not following court orders
Both before, during, and after the divorce, you may be under certain regulations and restrictions governing your time with your children. Especially after the divorce, when a parenting plan and/or court order regarding custody is in place, you must follow these obligations. Failure to do so could put your custody arrangement and visitation time with your children at risk.
3. Inappropriate social media posts
You should not assume that the privacy settings on your social media accounts will protect you from your ex seeing your posts. Think twice before posting on social media during your divorce, and if it seems even remotely inappropriate, opt against posting. If your child custody matter goes before a judge, the court will scrutinize your actions and behavior. Inappropriate social media posts, such as raging against your ex or showing off a lifestyle that seems incompatible with the duties and responsibilities of parenting, could play a role in a negative review.