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Parenting plan considerations when one parent lives far away

Your job is taking you out of Utah, but this will necessitate a new parenting plan and custody orders. The last thing you want is to disrupt your relationship with your child.

What can you include in the modified plan to give you ample opportunities to keep your parent-child bond strong?

What if my ex is harassing me about my child support spending?

Like many single parents in Utah with primary custody, you may feel as if you would not be able to get by without child support. Your ex might also have strong feelings about the money he or she must give you for the well-being of your children. It can be worrying if your ex says you need to provide receipts for what you spend the money on, or that the court will monitor your child support spending.

You can breathe a sigh of relief with the knowledge that you do not have to provide receipts or tell your ex how you spend child support, or that neither your ex nor the courts can dictate your spending. As you know, the physical well-being of your children is a priority when it comes to spending this money. Therefore, you might choose to spend it on food, clothing, hygiene products, medicine, school supplies and other items that benefit your kids. You can also spend child support on household products, utilities, rent and expenses related to keeping you and your children safe and comfortable.

How to cope emotionally during a divorce

No couple wants their marriage to end in divorce. Fortunately, the rate of divorce has declined in both Utah and the United States as a whole in recent years. While the rate has stabilized, divorce is still common when two partners can't make a marriage work.

There are many things to review during divorce proceedings, and through discussing the child custody agreement and determining who will get what, it is easy to neglect your emotional health. Here are some ways to heal as you go through this challenging time: 

3 child custody mistakes to avoid

Divorce is a time filled with difficult moments and important decisions that you must make under emotional duress. In addition, if you are a parent, you have your children's well-being to consider, and you must put their best interests at the forefront of your divorce proceedings.

Child custody is notoriously fraught with conflict and trauma, especially for the children. However, it does not necessarily have to be a dramatic and conflictual battle. Here are a few tips about things to avoid when dealing with child custody, so you can make the process easier and less disturbing for your children:

Can you modify a child custody order in Utah?

The end of divorce often comes with great relief, as the worst part is over. However, post-divorce life is not smooth sailing from here. Everyone must make major adjustments and deal with the emotional aftermath. The regular challenges of life continue to happen, as well, and new obstacles arise.

When your circumstances change again, you may find that your current custody arrangement is no longer working for you, your ex or the children. You may wonder if there is anything you can do about it or if you are stuck with the custody terms of the divorce order. If your situation meets certain requirements, then you can seek a modification. Note that modifying your custody arrangement will also affect child support and parenting time.

Is mediation always a good idea?

We have discussed the numerous benefits of mediation in recent posts. However, you and other Utah residents who are considering divorce may wonder if mediation is a one-size-fits-all solution. Are there some factors in your divorce that may make mediation more difficult? Is litigation sometimes the better option? Can you overcome difficulties during the mediation process and still make it work?

As you know, mediation’s benefits, such as privacy, cost-effectiveness and reduced conflict, can be inviting. However, some factors are likely to complicate the process. These may include the following:

  • Your spouse abused alcohol or drugs while you were married, and you worry that addiction may still be a problem.
  • Domestic violence or emotional abuse was present during your marriage.
  • Your spouse has significantly more funds and separate assets than you, which he or she is using as a financial advantage over you.
  • You and your spouse are unable to communicate without arguing, and negotiating or being open-minded to mutually agreeable solutions is nearly impossible.
  • Your spouse is deliberately being difficult and combative during mediation sessions.

2 major benefits of divorce mediation

Divorce is generally difficult enough without factoring in the financial side of things, given the substantial number of transitions the process usually involves. Moving homes, changing jobs and assuming new responsibilities are just a few of the ways your life may change following your divorce, but you may find that the entire process can go smoother if you are willing to consider divorce mediation.

While not appropriate for all divorcing couples (and probably not appropriate for couples who have a lot of bad blood between them), divorce mediation offers several major benefits. The process, which involves foregoing hiring individual lawyers in favor of working with a single, impartial mediator, is growing increasingly common among married couples who wish to part ways with minimal hardship, and for two key reasons. More specifically, divorce mediation brings with it the following major advantages:

Stop social media from hurting your divorce case

Social media can bring many positives into people's lives. However, the ability to instantly share everything with a wide range of people can have its downsides during a divorce.

As far back as 2010, divorce lawyers have been mining the opposition's social media for damaging evidence. Read on to learn about the most common ways to protect yourself from your ex's attempts to use social media against you.

Why equal parenting time is best for your children

Most married couples do not split amicably but have negative feelings such as hostility and resentment toward each other. Often, the cause of the divorce, such as infidelity or addiction, is what makes this life event so emotionally intense and contentious. The things that happened may cause you not only to want to avoid your ex but also want your kids to avoid being with him or her.

As much as you do not want to share your kids equally with your ex, studies show that this arrangement is the most beneficial to children, reports Psychology Today. Once you understand how it helps mitigate the side effects of your family splitting up, you may be more willing to agree to this parenting schedule.

How to tell your kids about divorce

One of the most painful things parents in the Salt Lake City area who are separating have to do is tell their children about their divorce. If you wait too long, you risk your relationship with them and their emotional well-being. So, it is generally better for you to tell them sooner than later if you are sure that reconciliation is not possible.

You might feel uncomfortable talking to your kids about divorce and confused about how you should bring the topic up. You might also have concerns about what you should say. To make it easier for you to explain the changes that coming for your family, consider the following pointers. 

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